Every matter hath two handles—by the one it may be carried; by the other, not. If thy brother do thee wrong, take not this thing by the handle, He wrongs me; for that is the handle whereby it may not be carried. But take it rather by the handle, He is my brother, nourished with me; and thou wilt take it by a handle whereby it may be carried.
Every situation has two handles. One lets you carry it, the other does not. If your brother wrongs you, do not grasp the handle, He wrongs me. That is the handle you cannot carry it by. Instead, grasp the handle, He is my brother, and we grew up together. Then you will have a handle you can carry it by.