A New Way to Raise Children

Not long ago there was on exhibition in New York a young horse which can do most marvelous things; and yet his trainer says that only five years ago he had a very bad disposition. He was fractious, and would kick and bite, but now instead of displaying his former viciousness, he is obedient, tractable, and affectionate. He can readily count and reckon up figures, can spell many words, and knows what they mean.

Not long ago, a young horse that could do amazing things was on display in New York. Yet his trainer says that just five years ago, the horse had a very bad disposition. He was difficult to handle and would kick and bite. But now, instead of behaving viciously, he is obedient, easy to handle, and affectionate. He can easily count and do arithmetic. He can also spell many words and knows what they mean.

In fact this horse seems to be capable of learning almost anything. Five years of kindness have completely transformed the vicious yearling colt. He is very responsive to kindness, but one can do nothing with him by whipping or scolding him. His trainer says that in all the five years he has never touched him with a whip but once.

In fact, this horse seems capable of learning almost anything. Five years of kindness have completely transformed the once vicious yearling colt. He responds very well to kindness, but whipping or scolding him gets nowhere. His trainer says he has used a whip on him only once in all five years.

I know a mother of a large family of children who has never whipped but one of them, and that one only once.

I know a mother with many children. She has whipped only one of them, and only once.

When her first child was born people said she was too good-natured to bring up children, that she would spoil them, as she would not correct or discipline them, and would do nothing but love them. But this love has proved the great magnet which has held the family together in a marvelous way. Not one of those children has gone astray. They have all grown up manly and womanly, and love has been wonderfully developed in their natures. Their own affection responded to the mother's love and has become their strongest motive. To-day all her children look upon "Mother" as the grandest figure in the world. She has brought out the best in them because she saw the best in them. The worst did not need correcting or repressing, because the expulsive power of a stronger affection drove out of the nature or discouraged the development of vicious tendencies which, in the absence of a great love, might have become dominant and ruined the life.

When her first child was born, people said she was too good-natured to raise children. They said she would spoil them because she would not correct or discipline them, but would only love them. But her love has proved to be the great magnet that has held the family together in a remarkable way. Not one of those children has gone astray. They have all grown into admirable men and women, and love has grown wonderfully in their natures. Their own affection responded to their mother's love and has become their strongest motivation. Today, all her children see "Mother" as the greatest figure in the world. She brought out the best in them because she saw the best in them. The worst in them did not need correcting or holding back. The power of a stronger love drove out or discouraged bad tendencies. Without that great love, those tendencies might have taken over and ruined their lives.

Love is a healer, a life-giver, a balm for our hurts. All through the Bible are passages which show the power of love as a healer and life-lengthener. "With long life will I satisfy him," said the Psalmist, "because he hath set his love upon me."

Love heals, gives life, and soothes our hurts. Throughout the Bible, passages show that love can heal and lengthen life. "I will satisfy him with a long life," said the Psalmist, "because he has set his love on me."

When shall we learn that the great curative principle is love, that love heals because it is harmony? There can be no discord where it reigns. Love is serenity, is peace and happiness.

When will we learn that love is the great healing power? Love heals because it is harmony. There can be no discord where love rules. Love is calm, peace, and happiness.

Love is the great disciplinarian, the supreme harmonizer, the true peacemaker. It is the great balm for all that blights happiness or breeds discontent, a sovereign panacea for malice, revenge, and all the brutal propensities. As cruelty melts before kindness, so the evil passions and their antidote in sweet charity and loving sympathy.

Love is the greatest teacher of self-control, the greatest force for harmony, and the true peacemaker. It soothes all that destroys happiness or breeds discontent. It is a complete cure for malice, revenge, and all brutal impulses. Just as kindness melts cruelty, loving generosity and sympathy counter evil passions.

The mother is the supreme shaper of life and destiny.

A mother is the greatest influence in shaping life and destiny.

Many a mother's love for her children has undoubtedly stayed the ravages of some fatal disease. Her conviction that she was necessary to them and her great love for them have braced her, and have enabled her to successfully cope with the enemies of her life for a long time.

Many a mother's love for her children has undoubtedly slowed the progress of a fatal disease. Her belief that her children needed her and her great love for them gave her strength. They enabled her to fight the threats to her life successfully for a long time.

One mother I know seems to have the magical art of curing nearly all the ills of her children by love. If any member of the family has any disagreeable experience, is injured or pained, hurt or unhappy, he immediately goes to the mother for the universal balm, which heals all troubles.

One mother I know seems to have a magical gift for curing nearly all her children’s troubles with love. If anyone in the family has an unpleasant experience, is injured, in pain, hurt, or unhappy, they go straight to her. Her love is a universal balm that heals all troubles.

This mother has a way of drawing the troubled child out of discord into the zone of perpetual harmony. If he is swayed by jealousy, hatred, or anger, she applies the love solvent, the natural antidote for these passion poisons. She knows that scolding a child when he is already suffering more than he can bear is like trying to put out a fire with kerosene.

This mother knows how to draw a troubled child out of conflict and into a place of lasting harmony. If he is overcome by jealousy, hatred, or anger, she uses love to dissolve those poisonous emotions. Love is their natural antidote. She knows that scolding a child who is already suffering more than he can bear is like trying to put out a fire with kerosene.

Our orphan asylums give pathetic illustration of how quickly the child mind matures and ages prematurely without the uplift and enrichment of the mother love, the mother sympathy,—parental protection and home influence.

Our orphanages offer a heartbreaking example of how quickly a child's mind matures and ages prematurely. This happens without the uplifting and enriching effects of a mother's love and sympathy, parental protection, and home influence.

It is well known that children who lose their parents and are adopted by their grandparents and live in the country, where they do not have an opportunity to mingle much with other children, adopt the manners and mature vocabulary of their elders, for they are very imitative, and become little men and women before they are out of their youth.

It is well known that some children lose their parents and are adopted by their grandparents in the country. There, they have little chance to spend time with other children. Because children are very imitative, they adopt the manners and mature vocabulary of their elders. They become little men and women while they are still young.

Think of a child reared in the contaminating atmosphere of the slums, where everything is dripping with suggestions of vulgarity and wickedness of every description! Think of his little mind being filled with profanity, obscenity, and filth of all kinds! Is it any wonder that he becomes so filled with vicious, criminal suggestions that he tends to become like his environment?

Think of a child raised in the corrupting atmosphere of the slums, where everything suggests vulgarity and every kind of wickedness! Think of his young mind being filled with profanity, obscenity, and all kinds of filth! Is it any wonder that he becomes so filled with vicious and criminal ideas that he tends to become like his surroundings?

Contrast such a child with one that is brought up in an atmosphere of purity, refinement, and culture, and whose mind is always filled with noble, uplifting suggestions of the true, the beautiful, and the lovely. What a difference in the chances of these two children, and without any special effort or choice of their own! One mind is trained upward, towards the light, the other downward, towards darkness.

Contrast such a child with one raised in an atmosphere of purity, refinement, and culture. The second child’s mind is always filled with noble, uplifting thoughts of what is true, beautiful, and lovely. What a difference in their chances, without any special effort or choice of their own! One mind is trained upward, toward the light, and the other downward, toward darkness.

What chance has a child to lead a noble life when all his first impressionable years are saturated with the suggestion of evil, when jealousy and hatred, revenge, quarreling and bickering, all that is low and degrading, fill his ears and eyes?

What chance does a child have to lead a noble life when his first impressionable years are filled with suggestions of evil? What chance does he have when he sees and hears jealousy, hatred, revenge, quarreling, bickering, and everything low and degrading?

How important it is that the child should only hear and see and be taught that which will make for beauty and for truth, for loveliness and grandeur of character!

How important it is for a child to hear, see, and learn only what fosters beauty, truth, and a lovely and noble character!

We ought to have a great deal of charity for those whose early lives have been soaked in evil, criminal, impurity thoughts.

We should show great compassion for those whose early lives were saturated with evil, criminal, and impure thoughts.

The minds of children are like the sensitive plates of a photographer, recording every thought or suggestion to which they are exposed. These early impressions make up the character and determine the future possibility.

Children’s minds are like a photographer’s sensitive plates, recording every thought or suggestion they encounter. These early impressions shape their character and determine their future possibilities.

If you would encourage your child and help him to make the most of himself, inject bright, hopeful, optimistic, unselfish pictures into his atmosphere. To stimulate and inspire his confidence and unselfishness means growth, success, and happiness for him in his future years, while the opposite practice may mean failure and misery.

If you want to encourage your child and help him reach his full potential, surround him with bright, hopeful, optimistic, and unselfish images. Encouraging his confidence and unselfishness means growth, success, and happiness for him in the years ahead. But doing the opposite may lead to failure and misery.

It is of infinitely more importance to hold the right thought towards a child, the confident, successful, happy, optimistic thought, than to leave him a fortune without this. With his mind properly trained he could not fail, could not be unhappy, without reversing the whole formative process of his early life.

It is infinitely more important to think of a child with confidence, success, happiness, and optimism in mind than to leave him a fortune without such thoughts. With his mind properly trained, he could not fail or be unhappy unless he reversed everything that had shaped him in his early life.

Keep the child's mind full of harmony, of truth, and there will be no room for discord, for error.

Keep a child's mind full of harmony and truth, and there will be no room for discord or error.

It is cruel constantly to remind children of their deficiencies or peculiarities. Sensitive children are often seriously injured by the suggestion of inferiority and the exaggeration of defects which might have been entirely overcome. This everlasting harping against the bad does not help the child half as much as keeping his little mind full of the good, the beautiful, and the true. The constant love suggestion, purity suggestion, nobility suggestion will so permeate the life after a while that there will be nothing to attract the opposite. It will be so full of sunshine, so full of beauty and love, that there will be little or no place for their opposites.

It is cruel to constantly remind children of their shortcomings or unusual traits. Sensitive children are often seriously harmed when they are made to feel inferior and their flaws are exaggerated. Those flaws might otherwise have been completely overcome. Constantly harping on the bad does not help a child half as much as filling their mind with goodness, beauty, and truth. Constantly suggesting love, purity, and nobility will eventually fill the child’s life so completely that nothing will attract their opposites. The child’s life will be so full of sunshine, beauty, and love that there will be little or no room for their opposites.

The child's self-confidence should be buttressed, braced, and encouraged in every possible way; not that he should be taught to overestimate his ability and his possibilities, but the idea that he is God's child, that he is heir to an Infinite inheritance, magnificent possibilities, should be instilled into the very marrow of his being.

A child's self-confidence should be supported and encouraged in every possible way. This does not mean teaching him to overestimate his abilities and potential. But he should be taught, deep in his being, that he is God's child, with an infinite inheritance and magnificent possibilities.

A great many boys, especially those who are naturally sensitive, shy, and timid, are apt to suspect that they lack the ability which others have. It is characteristic of such youths that they distrust their own ability and are very easily discouraged or encouraged. It is a sin to shake or destroy a child's self-confidence, to reflect upon his ability or to suggest that he will never amount to much. These discouraging words, like initials cut in the sapling, grow wider and wider with the years, until they become great ugly scars in the man.

Many boys, especially those who are naturally sensitive, shy, and timid, tend to doubt that they have the abilities others have. Such boys distrust their own abilities and are very easily discouraged or encouraged. It is a sin to undermine or destroy a child's self-confidence, question his ability, or suggest that he will never amount to much. Discouraging words are like initials carved into a young tree. They grow wider with the years until they become great, ugly scars in the man.

Most parents do not half realize how impressionable children are, and how easily they may be injured or ruined by discouragement or ridicule. Children require a great deal of appreciation, praise, and encouragement. They live upon it. It is a great tonic to them. On the other hand, they wither very quickly under criticism, blame, or depreciation. Their sensitive natures can not stand it. It is the worst kind of policy to be constantly blaming, chiding them, and positively cruel, bordering on criminality even, to suggest to them that they are mentally deficient or peculiar, that they are stupid and dull, and that they will probably never amount to anything in the world.

Most parents do not fully realize how impressionable children are. They do not realize how easily discouragement or ridicule can hurt or ruin them. Children need a great deal of appreciation, praise, and encouragement. They live on it. It is a great boost to them. On the other hand, they quickly wither under criticism, blame, or belittling. Their sensitive natures cannot stand it. It is a terrible practice to constantly blame and scold them. It is downright cruel, even bordering on criminal, to suggest that they are mentally deficient or peculiar. It is just as cruel to suggest that they are stupid and dull and will probably never amount to anything.

How easy it is for a parent or teacher to ruin a child's constructive ability, to change a naturally, positive creative mind to a negative, non-producing one, by chilling the child's enthusiasm, by projecting into his plastic mind the idea that he is stupid, dull, lazy, a "blockhead" and good-for-nothing; that he will never amount to anything; that it is foolish for him to try to be much, because he has not the ability or physical stamina to enable him to accomplish what many others do. Such teaching would undermine the brightest intellect.

How easily a parent or teacher can ruin a child's ability to create. They can turn a naturally positive, creative mind into a negative, unproductive one by dampening the child's enthusiasm. They can plant the idea in the child's impressionable mind that he is stupid, dull, lazy, a "blockhead" and good-for-nothing. They can tell him he will never amount to anything. They can make him believe it is foolish to try to achieve much because he lacks the ability or physical stamina to do what many others do. Such teaching would undermine even the brightest mind.

I have known of an extremely sensitive, timid boy who had a great deal of natural ability, but who developed very slowly, whose whole future was nearly ruined by his teacher and parents constantly telling him that he was stupid and dull, and that he probably never would amount to anything. A little praise, a little encouragement, would have made a superb man of this youth, because he had the material for the making of one. But he actually believed that he was not up to the ordinary mental standard; he was thoroughly convinced that he was mentally deficient, and this conviction never entirely left him.

I knew an extremely sensitive, timid boy who had a great deal of natural ability but developed very slowly. His teacher and parents constantly told him he was stupid and dull and would probably never amount to anything. They nearly ruined his whole future. A little praise and encouragement would have made him a superb man, because he had the qualities needed. But he actually believed that his mental abilities were below average. He was thoroughly convinced that he was mentally deficient, and that belief never entirely left him.

We are beginning to discover that it is much easier to attract than to coerce. Praise and encouragement will do infinitely more for children than threats and punishment. The warm sunshine is more than a match for the cold, has infinitely more influence in developing the bud, the blossom, and the fruit than the wind and the tempest, which suppress what responds voluntarily to the genial influence of the sun's rays.

We are beginning to discover that attracting people is much easier than forcing them. Praise and encouragement will do infinitely more for children than threats and punishment. Warm sunshine is more than a match for the cold. It does infinitely more to develop buds, blossoms, and fruit than wind and storms. Wind and storms suppress what responds willingly to the sun’s gentle warmth.

We all know how boys will work like troopers under the stimulus of encouragement and praise. Many parents and teachers know this, and how fatal the opposite policy is. But unfortunately a great majority do not appreciate the magic of praise and appreciation.

We all know how hard boys will work when they receive encouragement and praise. Many parents and teachers know this, and they know how damaging the opposite approach can be. But unfortunately, the great majority do not appreciate the magic of praise and appreciation.

Pupils will do anything for a teacher who is always kind, considerate, and interested in them; but a cross, fractious, nagging one so arouses their antagonism that it often proves a fatal bar to their progress. There must be no obstruction, no ill-feeling between the teacher and the pupil, if the best results are to be obtained.

Pupils will do anything for a teacher who is always kind, considerate, and interested in them. But a bad-tempered, irritable, nagging teacher creates so much hostility that it often completely blocks their progress. For the best results, there must be no barriers or ill feelings between teacher and pupil.

Many parents are very much distressed by the waywardness of their children; but this waywardness is often more imaginary than real. A large part of children's pranks and mischief is merely the outcome of exuberant youthful spirits, which must have an outlet, and if they are suppressed, their growth is fatally stunted. They are so full of life, energy, and so buoyant that they can not keep still. They must do something. Give them an outlet for their animal spirits. Love is the only power that can regulate and control them.

Many parents are deeply troubled by their children’s unruly behavior. But this behavior is often more imagined than real. Much of children’s mischief simply comes from their youthful energy, which needs an outlet. If that energy is suppressed, their growth is permanently stunted. Children are so full of life and energy that they cannot keep still. They must do something. Give them an outlet for their lively spirits. Only love can guide and control them.

Do not try to make men of your boys or women of your girls. It is not natural. Love them. Make home just as happy a place as possible, and give them rein, freedom. Encourage them in their play, for they are now in their fun age. Many parents ruin the larger, completer, fuller development of their children by repressing them, destroying their childhood, their play days, by trying to make them adults. There is nothing sadder in American life than the child who has been robbed of its childhood.

Do not try to make your boys into men or your girls into women. It is not natural. Love them. Make home as happy a place as possible, and give them freedom. Encourage them to play, because this is their time for fun. Many parents keep their children from developing more fully by holding them back and robbing them of their childhood and play. They do this by trying to make their children into adults. There is nothing sadder in American life than a child who has been robbed of childhood.

Children are little animals, sometimes selfish, often cruel, due to the fact that some parts of their brain develop faster than others, so that their minds are temporarily thrown out of balance, sometimes even to cruel or criminal tendencies, but later the mind becomes more symmetrical and the vicious tendencies usually disappear. Their moral faculties and sense of responsibility unfold more slowly than other traits, and of course, they will do mischievous things; but it is a fatal mistake to be always suppressing them. They must give out their surplus energy in some way. Encourage them to romp. Play with them. It will keep you young, and will link them to you with hooks of steel. Do not be afraid of losing your dignity. If you make home the happiest, most cheerful place on earth for your children, if you love them enough, there is little danger of their becoming bad.

Children are little animals, sometimes selfish and often cruel. Some parts of their brains develop faster than others, temporarily throwing their minds out of balance. This imbalance can sometimes lead to cruel or criminal tendencies. But later, their minds become more balanced, and these vicious tendencies usually disappear. Their moral sense and sense of responsibility develop more slowly than other traits. Of course, they will do mischievous things, but constantly suppressing them is a fatal mistake. They must release their extra energy somehow. Encourage them to play freely. Play with them. It will keep you young and bind them to you with hooks of steel. Do not be afraid of losing your dignity. If you make home the happiest, most cheerful place on earth for your children, and love them enough, there is little danger of their becoming bad.

Thousands of parents by being so severe with their children, scolding and criticizing them and crushing their childhood, make them secretive and deceitful instead of open and transparent, and estrange them and drive them away from home.

Thousands of parents are so harsh with their children that they crush their childhood with scolding and criticism. As a result, their children become secretive and deceitful instead of open and honest. This harshness also estranges the children and drives them away from home.

A man ought to look back upon the home of his childhood as the Eden of his life, where love reigned, instead of as a place where a long-faced severity and harshness ruled, where he was suppressed and his fun-loving spirits snuffed out.

A man should look back on his childhood home as the Eden of his life, a place where love reigned. It should not be a place ruled by grim severity and harshness, where he was stifled and his playful spirit crushed.

Every mother, whether she realizes it or not, is constantly using the power of suggestion in rearing her children, healing all their little hurts. She kisses the bumps and bruises and tells the child all is well again, and he is not only comforted, but really believes that the kiss and caress have magic to cure the injury. The mother is constantly antidoting and neutralizing the child's little troubles and discords by giving the opposite thought and applying the love-elixir.

Every mother, whether she realizes it or not, constantly uses the power of suggestion when raising her children and healing all their little hurts. She kisses their bumps and bruises and tells them everything is all right again. The child is not only comforted but truly believes that the kiss and caress can magically heal the injury. A mother constantly counters and soothes her child's little troubles and upsets by offering the opposite thought and applying the elixir of love.

It is possible, through the power of suggestion, to develop in children faculties upon which health, success, and happiness depend. Most of us know how dependent our efficiency is upon our moods, our courage, hope. If the cheerful, optimistic faculties were brought out and largely developed in childhood, it would change our whole outlook upon life, and we would not drag through years of half-heartedness, discouragement, and mental anguish, our steps dogged by fear, apprehension, anxiety, and disappointment.

Through the power of suggestion, we can develop the abilities children need for health, success, and happiness. Most of us know how much our effectiveness depends on our moods, courage, and hope. If our capacity for cheerfulness and optimism were nurtured and strongly developed in childhood, our whole outlook on life would change. We would not drag through years of half-heartedness, discouragement, and mental anguish, pursued by fear, worry, anxiety, and disappointment.

One reason why we have such poor health is because we have been steeped in poor-health thought from infancy. We have been saturated with the idea that pain, physical suffering, and disease, are a part of life; necessary evils which can not be avoided. We have had it so instilled into us that robust health is the exception and could not be expected to be the rule that we have come to accept this unfortunate condition of things as a sort of fate from which we can not hope to get away.

One reason we have such poor health is that we have been surrounded by thoughts of poor health since infancy. We have been taught that pain, physical suffering, and disease are part of life, necessary evils that cannot be avoided. We have been taught so thoroughly that robust health is the exception, not the rule, that we have come to accept poor health as a kind of fate we cannot hope to escape.

The child hears so much sick talk, is cautioned so much about the dangers of catching all sorts of diseases, that he grows up with the conviction that physical discords, aches, pains, all discomfort and suffering, are a necessary part of his existence, that at any time disease is liable to overtake him and ruin his happiness and thwart his career.

The child hears so much talk about illness and so many warnings about catching all kinds of diseases. As a result, he grows up believing that physical problems, aches, pains, discomfort, and suffering are a necessary part of life. He believes that disease could strike him at any time, ruin his happiness, and derail his career.

Think of what the opposite training would do for the child; if he were taught that health is the ever-lasting fact and that disease is but the manifestation of the absence of harmony! Think what it would mean to him if he were trained to believe that abounding health, rich, full, complete, instead of sickness, that certainty instead of uncertainty were his birthright! Think what it would mean for him to expect this during all his growing years, instead of building into his consciousness the opposite, instead of being saturated with the sick thought and constantly being cautioned against disease and the danger of contracting it!

Think what the opposite kind of training would do for a child. What if he were taught that health is the everlasting reality and that disease is only a sign of disharmony? Think what it would mean if he were taught to believe that abundant, rich, full, complete health was his birthright. He would believe that certainty, not uncertainty, was his birthright, and that health, not sickness, was his birthright! Think what it would mean for him to expect this throughout his growing years! Instead, he absorbs the opposite belief, becomes saturated with thoughts of sickness, and is constantly warned about disease and the danger of catching it.

The child should be taught that God never created disease, and never intended that we should suffer; that we were made for abounding health and happiness, made for enjoyment not for pain—made to be happy, not miserable, to express harmony, not discord.

A child should be taught that God never created disease and never intended us to suffer. We were made for abundant health and happiness, for enjoyment, not pain. We were made to be happy, not miserable, and to express harmony, not discord.

Children are extremely credulous. They are inclined to believe everything that an adult tells them, especially the nurse, the father and mother, and their older brothers and sisters. Even the things that are told them in jest they take very seriously; and their imaginations are so vivid and their little minds so impressionable that they magnify everything. They are often punished for telling falsehoods, when the fault is really due to their excessively active imagination.

Children are very trusting. They tend to believe everything an adult tells them, especially a nurse, a parent, or an older brother or sister. They take even jokes very seriously. Their imaginations are so vivid and their young minds so impressionable that they exaggerate everything. Children are often punished for telling lies when their overactive imaginations are really to blame.

Many ignorant or thoughtless parents and nurses constantly use fear as a means of governing children. They fill their little minds full of all sorts of fear stories and terror pictures which may mar their whole lives. They often buy soothing syrups and all sorts of sleeping potions to prevent the little ones from disturbing their rest at night, or to keep them quiet and from annoying them in the day time, and thus are liable to stunt their brain development.

Many ignorant or thoughtless parents and caregivers constantly use fear to control children. They fill children's minds with all sorts of frightening stories and images that may harm them for life. They often buy soothing syrups and all sorts of sleeping potions to keep the little ones from disturbing their sleep at night. They also use them to keep children quiet and prevent them from bothering the adults during the day. These potions may stunt children's brain development.

Even if children were not seriously injured by fear, it would be wicked to frighten them, for it is wrong to deceive them. If there is anything in the world that is sacred to the parent or teacher, it is the unquestioned confidence of children.

Even if fear did not seriously harm children, it would be wicked to frighten them because it is wrong to deceive them. If anything is sacred to a parent or teacher, it is the unquestioning trust of children.

I believe that the beginnings of deterioration in a great many people who go wrong could be traced to the forfeiting of the children's respect and confidence by the parents and teachers. We all know from experience that confidence once shaken is almost never entirely restored. Even when we forgive, we seldom forget; the suspicion often remains. There should never be any shadows between the child and his parents and teachers. He should always be treated with the utmost frankness, transparency, sincerity. The child's respect is worth everything to his parents. Nothing should induce them to violate it or to shake it. It should be regarded as a very sacred thing, a most precious possession.

I believe that many people begin to go wrong when their parents and teachers lose their respect and trust. We all know from experience that once trust is shaken, it is almost never fully restored. Even when we forgive, we rarely forget. Suspicion often remains. There should never be any shadows between a child and their parents and teachers. A child should always be treated with complete openness and sincerity. A child’s respect is worth everything to their parents. Nothing should lead parents to betray or weaken that respect. They should regard it as sacred, a most precious possession.

Think of the shock which must come to a child when he grows up and discovers that those he has trusted implicitly and who seemed almost like gods to him have been deceiving him for years in all sorts of ways!

Think of the shock a child must feel when he grows up and discovers the truth! The people he trusted completely and saw as almost like gods had been deceiving him in all sorts of ways for years.

I have heard mothers say that they dreaded to have their children grow up and discover how they had deceived them all through their childhood; to have them discover that they had resorted to fear, superstition, and all sorts of deceits in order to govern or influence them.

I have heard mothers say they feared their children would grow up and discover how they had deceived them throughout childhood. They feared their children would discover that they had used fear, superstition, and all sorts of lies to control or influence them.

Whenever you are tempted to deceive a child again, remember that the time will come when he will understand, and that he will receive a terrible shock when he discovers that you, up to whom he has looked with such implicit trust, such simple confidence, have deceived him.

Whenever you are tempted to deceive a child again, remember that the time will come when he will understand. He will be terribly shocked to discover that you deceived him. He has looked up to you with complete trust and innocent confidence.

Parents should remember that every distressing, blood-curdling story told to a child, every superstitious fear instilled into his young life, the mental attitude they bear towards him, the whole treatment they accord him, are making phonographic records in his nature which will be reproduced with scientific exactness in his future life.

Parents should remember that everything they say and do leaves a record in a child’s nature. Every frightening, bloodcurdling story and every superstitious fear they instill leaves its mark. So do their attitude toward the child and the way they treat the child. These records will be replayed with scientific precision in the child’s future life.

Whatever you do, never punish a child when he is suffering with fear. It is a cruel thing to punish children the way most mothers and teachers do, anyway; but to punish a child when he is already quivering with terror is extremely distressing, and to whip a child when you are angry is brutal. Many children never quite forget or forgive a parent or teacher for this cruelty.

Whatever you do, never punish a child who is afraid. The way most mothers and teachers punish children is cruel anyway. But punishing a child who is already trembling with fear is extremely distressing. And whipping a child when you are angry is brutal. Many children never quite forget or forgive a parent or teacher for this cruelty.

Parents, teachers, friends often put a serious stumbling-block in the way of a youth by suggesting that he ought to study for the ministry, or the law; to be a physician, an engineer, or enter some other profession or business for which he may be totally unfitted. I know a man whose career was nearly ruined by the suggestion of his grandmother when he was a child that she would educate him for the church, and that it was her wish for him to become a clergyman.

Parents, teachers, and friends often put a serious obstacle in a young person's path. They suggest that he should study to become a minister, lawyer, doctor, or engineer. Or they urge him to enter another profession or business for which he may be completely unsuited. I know a man whose career was nearly ruined by his grandmother's suggestion when he was a child. She said she would pay for his education for the church and wanted him to become a minister.

It was not that she saw in the little child any fitness for this holy office, but because she wanted a clergyman in the family, and she often reminded him that he must not disappoint her. The boy, who idolized his grandmother, pondered this thought until he became a young man. The idea possessed him so strongly that every time he tried to make a choice of a career the picture of a clergyman rushed first to his mind, and, although he could see no real reason why he should become a clergyman, the suggestion that he ought to worked like leaven in his nature and kept him from making any other choice until too late to enable him to succeed to any great extent.

It was not because she saw any fitness for this holy calling in the little boy. It was because she wanted a clergyman in the family. She often reminded him that he must not disappoint her. The boy idolized his grandmother and thought about this until he became a young man. The idea took such a strong hold on him that whenever he tried to choose a career, he first imagined becoming a clergyman. He could see no real reason to become one. Yet the suggestion that he should become a clergyman worked like yeast within him. It kept him from making any other choice until it was too late for him to achieve much success.

I know a most brilliant and marvelously fascinating woman who is extremely ambitious to make a name for herself, but she is almost totally lacking in her ability to apply herself, even in the line where her talent is greatly marked. She seems to be abundantly endowed in every faculty and quality except this. Now, if her parents had known the secret of correcting mental deficiencies, building up weak faculties, this girl could have been so trained that she would probably have had a great career and made a world-wide name for herself.

I know a brilliant and wonderfully fascinating woman who is extremely ambitious to make a name for herself. But she is almost entirely unable to apply herself, even in the area where she is especially talented. She seems to have every ability and quality in abundance except the ability to apply herself. If her parents had known the secret of correcting mental deficiencies and strengthening weak abilities, they could have trained her differently. She would then probably have had a great career and made a name for herself around the world.

I have in mind another woman, a most brilliant linguist, who speaks fluently seven languages. She is a most fascinating conversationalist and impresses one as having read everything, but, although in good health, she is an object of charity to-day, simply because she has never developed her practical faculties at all, and this because she was never trained to work, to depend upon herself even in little things when she was a child. She was fond of her books, was a most brilliant scholar, but never learned to be practical or to do anything herself. Her self-reliance and independence were never developed. All of her early friends predicted a brilliant future for her, but because of the very consciousness of possessing so many brilliant qualities and of the fact that she was flattered during all her student life and not obliged to depend upon herself for anything, she continued to exercise her strong scholarship faculties only, little dreaming that the neglect to develop her weaker ones would wreck her usefulness and her happiness.

I know another woman who is a brilliant linguist and speaks seven languages fluently. She is a fascinating conversationalist and gives the impression that she has read everything. But although she is healthy, she depends on charity today because she never developed her practical abilities. As a child, she was never taught to work or depend on herself, even in small matters. She loved her books and was a brilliant scholar, but she never learned to be practical or do anything herself. Her self-reliance and independence were never developed. All her early friends predicted a brilliant future for her. But she knew she had many brilliant qualities, had been flattered throughout her student years, and had never needed to depend on herself for anything. As a result, she continued to exercise only her strong scholarly abilities. She never imagined that neglecting her weaker abilities would ruin her usefulness and happiness.

It is not enough to possess ability. We must be able to use it effectively, and whatever interferes with its activity to that extent kills efficiency. There are many people who are very able in most qualities and yet their real work is seriously injured and often practically ruined, or they are thrown into the mediocre class, owing to some weakness or deficiency which might have been entirely remedied by cultivation and proper training in earlier life.

It is not enough to have ability. We must also be able to use it effectively. Anything that interferes with our ability makes us less effective. Many people are highly capable in most respects, yet some weakness or deficiency seriously harms or practically ruins their work. It often makes them mediocre, even though they could have completely overcome it with proper development and training earlier in life.

I know a man of superb ability in nearly every respect who is so timid and shy that he does not dare push himself forward or put himself in the position of greatest advantage, does not dare begin things. Consequently his whole life has been seriously handicapped.

I know a man who is exceptionally capable in nearly every way. But he is so timid and shy that he doesn't dare promote himself or put himself in the best position. He doesn't dare begin things. As a result, his whole life has been seriously held back.

If children could only be taught to develop a positive, creative mind, it would be of infinitely more value and importance to them than inheriting a fortune with a non-productive one. Youths should be taught that the most valuable thing to learn in life next to integrity is how to build their minds up to the highest possible producing point, the highest possible state of creative efficiency.

If children could be taught to develop positive, creative minds, it would be infinitely more valuable than inheriting a fortune with unproductive minds. Young people should be taught that, next to integrity, the most valuable thing to learn is how to develop their minds to the highest possible level of productivity, the highest possible state of creative efficiency.

The most important part of the education of the future will be to increase the chances of success in life and lessen the danger of failure and the wrecking of one's career by building up weak and deficient faculties, correcting one-sided tendencies, so that the individual will become more level-headed, better balanced, and have a more symmetrical mind.

The most important part of education in the future will be to improve people’s chances of success in life. It will also reduce the risk of failure and ruined careers. It will do this by strengthening weak or underdeveloped abilities and correcting one-sided tendencies. As a result, people will become more level-headed, better balanced, and more well-rounded in their thinking.

Many students leave school and college knowing a great deal, but without a bit of improvement in their self-confidence, their initiative ability. They are just as timid, shy, and self-depreciatory as before entering.

Many students leave school and college knowing a great deal, but with no improvement in their self-confidence or ability to take initiative. They are just as timid, shy, and self-critical as they were before they entered.

Now, what advantage is it to send a youth out into the world with a head full of knowledge but without the confidence or assurance to use it effectively, or the ability to grapple with life's problems with that vigor and efficiency which alone can bring success?

What good does it do to send a young person into the world with a head full of knowledge but without the confidence to use it effectively? What if they also lack the ability to tackle life's problems with the energy and efficiency needed for success?

It is an unpardonable reflection upon a college which turns out youths who dare not say their souls are their own, who have not developed a vigorous self-confidence, assurance, and initiative. Hundreds of students are turned out of our colleges every year who would almost faint away if they were suddenly called upon to speak in public, to read a resolution, or even to put a motion.

It is an unforgivable failing for a college to graduate young people who lack the courage to claim their independence. They have not developed strong self-confidence, assurance, or initiative. Every year, hundreds of students graduate from our colleges who would almost faint if suddenly asked to speak in public, read a resolution, or even make a motion.

The time will come when an education will enable a youth while upon his feet in public to express himself forcefully, to use the ability he has and summon his knowledge quickly. He will be so trained in self-control, in self-confidence, in level-headedness, that he will not be thrown off his guard in an emergency. The future education will mean that what the student knows will be available, that he can utilize it at will, that he will be trained to use it efficiently.

The time will come when education will enable a young person to speak forcefully in public. He will be able to use his abilities and quickly call on his knowledge. He will be trained in self-control, self-confidence, and clear thinking, so that an emergency will not catch him off guard. Education in the future will make what a student knows available to him whenever he needs it. He will be trained to use his knowledge efficiently.

Many of our graduates leave college every year as weak and inefficient in many respects as when they began their education. What is education for if it is not to train the youth to be the master of his faculties, master of every situation, able to summon all of his reserves of knowledge and power at will?

Every year, many graduates leave college as weak and ineffective in many ways as when they began. What is education for if not to teach young people to master their abilities and every situation? Shouldn't it prepare them to draw on all their knowledge and power whenever they choose?

A college graduate, timid, stammering, blushing, and confused, when suddenly called upon to use his knowledge whether in public or elsewhere, ought to be an unknown thing. Of what use is education which can not be summoned at will? Of what good are the reserves of learning which can not be marshaled quickly when we need them, which do not help one to be master of himself and the situation, whatever it may be?

No college graduate should be timid, stammering, blushing, and confused when suddenly called upon to use their knowledge, whether in public or elsewhere. What use is an education you cannot draw on at will? What good is a store of learning you cannot quickly draw on when you need it? What good is learning that does not help you master yourself and the situation, whatever it may be?

The time will come when no child will be allowed to grow up without being taught to believe in himself, to have great confidence in his ability. This will be a most important part of his education, for if he believes in himself enough, he will not be likely to allow a single deficient faculty or weakness to wreck his career.

The time will come when every child will be taught to believe in himself and have great confidence in his abilities. This will be a very important part of his education. For if he believes in himself enough, he will not be likely to let any single weakness or lack of ability wreck his career.

He should be reared in the conviction that he was sent into this world with a mission and that he is going to deliver it.

He should be raised to believe that he was sent into this world with a mission and that he will fulfill it.

Every youth should be taught that it was intended he should fill a place in the world which no one else can fill; that he should expect to fill it, and train himself for it; taught that he was made in the Creator's image, that in the truth of his being he is divine, perfect, immortal, and that the image of God can not fail. He should be taught to think grandly of himself, to form a sublime estimate of his possibilities and of his future. This will increase his self-respect and self-development in well-proportioned living.

Every young person should be taught that he was meant to fill a place in the world no one else can fill. He should expect to fill that place and prepare himself for it. He should be taught that he was made in the Creator's image. In the truth of his being, he is divine, perfect, and immortal, and the image of God cannot fail. He should be taught to think highly of himself and to have a lofty view of his possibilities and his future. This will increase his self-respect and help him develop himself as part of a well-balanced life.